According to author and sex expert Susan Crain Bakos (link NSFW), about 65 percent of women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm during sex, and 10 to 20 percent of women never peak at all.

That's a lot of sisters not getting the pleasure they deserve. So Bakos developed "The Orgasm Loop," which she claims is "the no-fail technique for reaching orgasm during sex." Bakos has tested the loop (which is detailed in a book by the same name) on over 575 women, "with overwhelmingly positive results."

I was skeptical, as I'm usually not an advocate of the self-help genre. In my opinion, new-age sex tips are about as reliable as restaurant recommendations from a vegan. But two attempts in, and suddenly ...

Click here to read what The Orgasm Loop is and how it worked for Sadie.

Getting Turned On (by Wood?!)
First, the loop itself, which is a series of three pretty simple steps.

Step one: Relax and focus on your "desire image," something that gets you super turned-on. The image can be anything, even if it's abstract, except your lover -- according to Bakos, you need to be totally relaxed and into yourself, and we all know our lovers don't always make us feel that way.

I tried out a couple of images: First my own anatomy in an extra turned-on state -- Bakos suggested it, I swear! -- but that didn't get me as turned-on as I would have liked. Bakos also suggested a Georgia O'Keefe orchid (clichés 'R us!), but that didn't work either. The picture I settled on came to me unbidden: an abstract-relief wood carving of people having sex. Doing it eternally without stopping even if they wanted to? That's hot. So -- settle on your image, and keep it in your head throughout the whole sexual experience.

Imagining My Arousal
Step two: When you're sufficiently turned on, imagine all your desire as a concentrated ball of energy right below your belly button, and then mentally move it into your vagina (from within, no fingers yet). Then imagine a coil of lust at the base of your spine and move it through your pelvis to your genitals. Yeah, it sounds hokey, but as I was moving the ball and the coil I actually felt heat in my lady parts, and they definitely became more sensitive.

Breathing to Bliss
The last part of the technique is where the loop comes in: Breathe in and out while you do your kegels (those are where you squeeze your PC, the same muscle that stops the flow of urine). Clench as you breathe in, relax as you breathe out. By staying focused on your image, getting all the energy in the right place, and keeping this rhythmic breathing and flexing, most women apparently will come. I did -- and honestly, I couldn't believe it.

Not only did I orgasm, but the arousal felt different from most of my masturbation. I was aware of my whole body instead of just my genitals, and I felt like I had generated the desire from within instead of getting turned on from an outside source like a vibrator or porn.

The Bottom Line
"The Orgasm Loop" is illustrated with photos of a skinny, blond chick with genetically dubious breasts and lavender eye shadow. Despite the cultural insensitivity and overall fromage factor, I think the O Loop is intended for -- and certainly applicable to -- women of all ages, backgrounds and orientations.

Bakos intended the book to help women achieve orgasm during sex. Since this column is about solo sex, and since I'm enjoying it so much by myself, I'm going to keep the O Loop in my own hands. But if you want to take it on the road, please do -- and make sure to tell us about it in the comments.

Sadie Faye reviews sex advice and accessories each week on Lemondrop. Got orgasm questions? Is there a product or technique you've been curious about but want someone to try out first? Ask her in the comments or e-mail her.